Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco are giving fans a closer look into their love story — and it’s nothing short of inspiring. The couple, who got engaged in December 2024, recently released a joint album titled “I Said I Love You First”, which dives deep into their emotional journey together.
Gomez, the global pop star and actress, and Blanco, the hit music producer behind countless chart-toppers, began dating in 2023. Since then, their relationship has blossomed into something genuine, full of trust, growth, and emotional healing.
In a heartfelt interview on the “On Purpose with Jay Shetty” podcast, Selena shared what she’s learned about love, herself, and life through her bond with Benny. Here are the top five takeaways from their candid conversation.
1. She Was Too Reactive in Past Relationships
Selena admitted that in previous relationships, she would often react quickly during conflicts, without thinking things through.
“I was very reactive,” she said. “That’s why I was alone for five years. I needed to heal and understand myself before I could be with someone in a healthy way.”
Her relationship with Benny has helped her find better ways to handle disagreements, showing how much she’s grown emotionally.
2. She’s Learned From Her Mistakes
Selena reflected on her past mistakes and how they shaped her personal growth.
“I’ve made mistakes, and I’ve learned from them,” she shared. “Ten years ago, I wouldn’t have been in the right headspace to be with Benny. He didn’t deserve the broken version of me from back then.”
Her maturity and self-awareness have helped her build a stronger, more balanced relationship with Blanco.
3. She Has No Regrets About Her Past
Despite going through very public breakups with stars like Justin Bieber and The Weeknd, Selena says she has no regrets.
“I’m happy for my journey,” she said. “Everything I’ve been through has taught me patience. I don’t regret anything — it’s all part of who I am.”
She also said she could never imagine disrespecting Benny, and that his calm nature helps her reflect rather than react.
4. Benny Makes Her Feel Truly Safe
For the first time, Selena feels completely safe and accepted in a relationship.
“When Benny looks at me, he sees me for who I truly am,” she said. “That’s something I’ve never had before, and it makes me feel comfortable and secure.”
She added that this kind of emotional safety was rare for her and that she treasures it deeply.
5. She’s Finally Learned to Trust Again
Selena revealed that trusting others — and even herself — hasn’t always been easy. But Benny has changed that.
“I trust Benny. I can tell him anything,” she said. “Even when things are uncomfortable, I know he’ll listen. He’s even like my ‘girlfriend’ sometimes — I can talk to him about anything!”
This emotional openness shows how strong their bond has become, allowing Selena to grow and feel confident in love again.